I think this is very sad for two reasons: it’s dreadful if the woman thinks that all the responsibility is on her shoulders and we’ve done that for so long to women in terms of miscarriage and also the man wants to be part of it as well. I think we’ve neglected men, we’ve pushed them to the side, we haven’t asked for their opinions, we certainly haven’t counselled men whose partners have been miscarriage and it’s very very settling for them too. So I think men want to be much more involved in the fertility journey and that’s why I think we should treat them as equal partners and we should talk about couple care for the male and female – not just a focus on the female.
I felt lonely, like I was just a random man in a corner but it’s a 50/50 process. The nurses, consultations and neurologists made me feel like I was part of the process. Regarding my process, it was donated sperm so I felt that I was needed, but that is not the case. I felt isolated, as if i was alone therefore a lot needs to be changed, moving forward.
