Karenna Wood
Award- wining International Fertility Coach, Founder of Your Fertility Hub, Your Fertility Hub
Category:
Emotions and Support
One thing I always say is to have a positive plan and a negative plan, especially if you’re going through 2-wait-week and you’re approaching your beta test, it’s good to feel like you have a plan, particularly a negative test result. For example, if you receive a negative result, who are you going to call, what are you going to do that day, is there something you’d like to eat that day, is there something you’d like to watch, or is there somewhere you’d like to go like a special place. You need to have those set boundaries. Even just knowing that you have that plan in case it’s a negative result is important.Your best approach to go through this is to do it optimistically because underneath all those thoughts is hope within you that this is going to work. That little part of you, that hope is so important, and it is often shut out because it’s painful. However, you need to allow yourself to go into that on your good days when you can. Visualize this working, visualize becoming a parent, visualize the pregnancy, it’s okay to be optimistic about this cycle because, unfortunately, if it is negative, the fall is very hard, the sadness, the grief, the loss of it is so hard anyway that having gone through it in an optimistic way you’ll have gone through. A lot of the studies show how important optimism is to your mindset and your decision-making. When we’re feeling more optimistic a lot of things generally flow better in our life w Another thing is to be assertive. Tune in to your every decision, and every appointment, it is so important that you are managing this in the best way that you can, you are asking the questions, and you are sure that you are understanding everything. Therefore, try to be more assertive with the people around you in terms of saying, I can’t do this right now, I don’t need this right now, I can’t attend this baby shower or family gathering, it’s just not healthy for me and so on. It’s the same with your clinic because you must understand what’s going on so that you feel that you’re getting everything you need, and it is also important in this doctor-patient relationship to not be passive in those appointments and make sure to understand them and that maybe means taking somebody else with you to those appointments, so you can talk about it afterwards. Speaking about IVF, we cannot forget that it is a numbers game. You may have heard things along your journey like you have an X per cent chance of conceiving naturally, your IVF success rate might be this or that, you get X number of follicles, your FSH is this level, your AMH is this level, it’s all around. Particularly after egg retrieval, it’s all around fertilization rates and grading of embryos, how many embryos you have. The numbers are immense, and it is mind-boggling our core brain doesn’t work in numbers, you, as a person, work intuitively around how you feel. The numbers can be great in terms of your analytical brain and understanding things, but they can also be incredibly difficult to manage emotionally. Therefore, regarding the numbers, you need to understand what you’re going to do with them and rationalise them as well because they can become very overwhelming and again, you cannot control this. You can only control your response to them.
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