In this webinar session, Monica Bivas, Mindset & Holistic Fertility Coach, Author of the Book “The IVF Planner”, talked about ways that can help you to defeat stress in your journey to motherhood.
IVF as a treatment is super stressful, and the financial, emotional, and physical impact, adding that to the life that we have every day with our daily job, creates a crazy roller coaster of emotions, stress, and anxiety. With stress cortisol is released, which is a hormone that immediately acts as a defence mechanism in our body to block everything, it causes inflammation, headaches, and a bunch of things that add to this anxiety.
Monica Bivas, in her presentation, talked about two tools to help you reduce anxiety: mindset and art therapy. Monica is a certified fertility coach and has attended many fertility programs that specialize in mindset, and emotional support.
I offer all of these services with all my heart because my own experience made me fall in love with what I do, I call it the worst club with the best members.
Mindset and art therapy are two tools that can create incredible results in everyday life. Specifically, if we are going through IVF, it will help us to navigate the journey in a little easier way because we are focused on having a baby. When we focus on only one thing, and we become obsessed with that thing we tend to forget what is around us and even experiences that have been offering happiness to us, we immediately also block ourselves to get the goal which is having a baby in the arms.
Mindset and art therapy are empowering and supportive tools that can be used from colouring pages to knitting, oil painting, pottery, or anything that can wake up the creativity that we have in our brain. Colouring can be very helpful because when we are colouring something with no colour, we are automatically waking our subconscious creativity, and then we are not even paying attention to what kind of colours we are using. The most beautiful thing about colouring is that when you finish a piece, you’re going to see what kind of colours you use, so for example, earth colours, which kind of help us ground us. If you finish your colouring with bright and neon colours, it seems that you’re in a mode of excitement, and happiness, then some colours are more like pastel or dark, those show a balance, it means we are accepting our current situation. Dark colours are going to show that we are still a bit blue and sad. Starting something new can help you shift your mind and make you a bit happier at that moment, and we tend to forget, living in the present is something we should focus on.
One of the advantages of going through difficult situations is that somehow that difficult situation, in this case, IVF, forces us to focus on the present moment. Then, when we are focused on the present moment, we need to say: do I choose to just go dark and suffer and cry and continue with what if? Or let it out, let me cry, let me write everything on a paper and then take a deep breath and focus on something different, which is a part of the therapy and colouring.
Journaling is also an incredible tool. If you are going through IVF and you don’t have someone to talk to, you can write down your feelings, that helps you to release that cortisol, and stress goes away, and you’ll feel much better. It’s going to help you to release serotonin and dopamines and endorphins, which is going to put a smile on your face.
Another tool that can be used is meditation. There is also an author Dr Joe Dispenza, who has a YouTube channel, and he has a program of meditations, there are 21 days of the session that can help train your subconsciousness. Mindfulness meditation allows us to get out of our heads from that anxiety and worry and look within our core, and this is where you can find your real voice. Always listen to that inner voice. Meditation, mindfulness, and art therapy help us also visualize somehow the beauty of creativity and tune in with our intuition and unique essence, which give us a space to focus on creating and uplifting our physical body, mind, emotional and spiritual side.
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Mindset and Art therapy keep us in the present moment, teach us to be aware that we can’t control the actual situation, and help us to ground ourselves. These two tools are a great support to lean onto when any situation is out of our control, and we, by default, start to have fears, worries, anxiety, and desperation.