I’m not quite sure what is going on. If it’s an egg or sperm problem or what is happening. I also need you to understand that there are some exceptions to the rule. However, the majority of the men I have seen, 98% of the men I’ve seen, they often say to me, I married my wife to be with my wife, not to have kids. Women are more likely to get married to the kind of partner, and it’s shown in biology that they want to have kids. Often the men will choose, give me my wife back, and we can establish some sort of life together, the women are the ones that fear that insecurity most of all.
My advice would be, look you’re 39, he is 5 years younger than you, I don’t know what your FSH is or what your AMH, but he can still have his own baby with you, with you carrying it. If your AMH is a problem, or if your FSH is a problem always remember that even if you feel it’s your responsibility as a couple of problems, at the end of the day, I have seen so many people who might have an egg problem and 2 years down the line, they meet someone else for whatever reason, and they fall pregnant, so it’s not to say it’s just one partner it’s the two together, and I suggest you talk about it to someone.
You’re feeling ashamed, and you’re feeling guilty, and shame and guilt brings you nothing but depression and internalizes, it makes you more insecure whereas if we can have you realize this is a reality, let’s have a plan in mind, are you willing to be on board, why aren’t you, what are your different options and I can tell you, he would be willing to be on board, it’s his sperm, and getting him over donor eggs and informing him about donor eggs can take 1 to 2 sessions, and it does make sense in that cognitive mind of the men I’ve seen.