In terms of support groups, there are quite a lot around on Facebook, all of them tend to have the same group rules about confidentiality and keeping things safe within there and not talking outside of the group. I certainly have that, and there’s no judgment, so I’d say closed support groups are great because they are full of people who’ve been through it themselves, places like forums are probably a little bit more public than closed groups.
There’s a lot of support on Instagram, so it does not support groups as such, but if you open an account under an anonymous name then you can post things and get some support on there, and as I said you’re more than welcome to join my group. I check it every day, to make sure it’s staying safe and the people are okay in there, it’s really hard, if your partner doesn’t like talking about it, but it’s because you must get support as well. If you’ve found that the counsellors don’t really help some people find it a bit like it’s a ticking a box that they’ve been and they’re not always best, and it’s not for everybody. I think in terms of how we find the right people to help us prepare for the next move, it depends on what helps you recover. For me, I went to see a life coach because after my failed cycle I felt that it wouldn’t work next time, I was convinced, it wouldn’t work again, and I needed to get myself out of that, and I didn’t feel that seeing a counsellor and talking about it would help, and that might be just my perception of counsellors at that time, but that’s why I went to a life coach because I felt I needed somebody to help me to make an action plan to move forward and which is what really helped me because they gave me techniques to stop the spiral of worrying and that really helped me. I’m a very action-oriented person, and I wanted to have that kind of support, but some people like to process what’s already happened, so counselling is more for them and some people like acupuncture because they get the health benefits, but it’s also a bit of talking therapy.
For me, the needles always put me off, and so it depends on what kind of person you are, but if you want, you can email me, and I can try and signpost you, and in the right direction of anybody that can help based on how you are, then please feel free to message me, you can get a lot of support anonymously, so you know it takes away that worry of your husband finding out about it as well, and so if you can join something anonymously then that’s a good way around, it’s less personal for you but as I said if you want to email me and say what kind of thing helps you, I can try and signpost you in the right direction.