A lot the people that I speak to stress that a really big thing with going through fertility treatment, needing fertility treatment, is feeling in control of your life. You have to give the control of your future, the possibility of having a child, to your fertility clinic and suddenly even that’s being taken away. I know a lot of people feeling really out of control at the minute. It’s really important just to focus on some of the things you can control at the moment. What I’d recommend is making a list of things that you can control, like keeping fully informed. You can ring your clinic to find out the situation with your specific situation. You can keep an eye on their social media, their website, for all the information so that you’re fully informed of when you need to contact them to get started again.
What their process of prioritization might be; and if they have one; how things will be in the clinic when you get back; if you need to organize getting a mask; if you need to work out different timings for going; can your partner come. Make a list of things that you can control there so you can keep informed. You could write a list of all the questions that you have for when you start the treatment again, in terms of timings, in terms of your actual treatment. That way, when you get the go-ahead to start treatment again you will have that list prepared. Look after yourself physically and emotionally, so you can control all that. You can control what you’re eating, and you can control how much rest you get in and make a list of all those things that you have control of. Planning each day while you’re in lockdown if you’re not able to work, is important.
Try to keep some kind of schedule going, so that you’re getting up and getting dressed, keep some normality and routine going. You can plan things that you do while you’re in lockdown. If there’s something you really wanted to do for a while just do it. If it’s looking for a new job, you could start doing the CV. If it’s decorating a room, you could maybe look at doing that. I know quite a few people who’ve been doing that during the lockdown. It might be helpful to you to write lists of things that you can’t control because then you can accept that they are out of your control and, then try to stop worrying about them. After all, no matter how much you worry about it, there’s nothing you can do. You can’t control when the treatment starts, you can’t control what happens with the virus. And as much as we would love to control all that, it’s out of your hands, and it’s one less thing for you to worry about. So to take back the control, write a list of things. A list will help you feel organized, and it just helps you look at the things you can do. I think you’ll realize that there are a lot of things you can control in this situation, which will just help you feel like you’re doing everything you can.